On this captivating episode of Dear Ife series Podcast Opeyemi Famakin, Africa’s leading food critic, takes a seat on Dear Ife’s couch to dive deep into how people navigate expectations in relationships – especially those built on convenience. But did we truly do justice to this complex topic? That’s where you come in! Share your honest thoughts in the comments – we can’t wait to hear from you! Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, COMMENT & SHARE.
Chapters
00:00 Coming Up
00:28 Dear Ife Intro
01:23 Introducing Opeyemi Famakin
02:23 Taking the Pledge
03:36 Reading the Note
07:30 Sharing opinions on a marriage of convenience and expectations
21:26 Opeyemi’s cheating experience & thoughts on comfort
37:57 Thoughts on marrying single moms
49:07 Appreciation
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Ife’s face when explaining how the lady does really love the guy 😂
Opeyemi is still living in lala land.
@Ope, why can't you pick the cup by it handle ?
That man doesn't like the lady. Do you go around beating the friends you like? How much more a partner? Flatmates have a more cordial relationship than them.
How do you go back after cheating on a man? Carry that trust and give it to the lord's work
How can you like road trip inside this Nigeria rubbish road
This sound is too noisy…there's something off about it
He is not realistic, not even a Billionaire in multi sleeps with both eyes . There is no way you love a woman and you won't be available 247!! Excerpt an irresponsible man
This is issue is not hard o😂
They are in a contract, I understand she is trying to redefine it but it is a wrong timing. It would have been easier to redefine it before moving on. Oga is enjoying his contract with “jara”. Hopefully, he meets her where she is.
Lesson learnt. Find yourself, and meet your real self before you find who you marry. Know yourself you will know who and what fits.
Ife that’s not true the government don’t join people together regardless of how long you’ve stayed together. Civil partnership is registered by both parties. The lady should leave that relationship… it is just contractual.
Ife, I’m a big fan of yours, but I have to say, this is your weakest interview yet. Opeyemi seemed all over the place and unfortunately, he managed to pull you along with him. He wandered off-topic repeatedly, failing to focus on actually answering the questions. In the end, I felt the poor girl was left more confused than when she started.
As someone who admires your work, I’m sharing this feedback out of love and respect. Don’t let your guests control the direction of your interviews—it takes away from the quality you’re known for.
This just didn’t feel like the Ife I’ve come to appreciate. I hope you understand this comes from a good place.
Thank you.
Please whats the mail we are to send our story to
Loved Ope's honesty ,, they're in a situationshio 😂
Great episode… What happened to the sound quality this time?
Strictly your opinion.
This episode is awesome👏👏👏❣❣❣
Women don't love themselves sha!
Do not allow ex’s into your life… they can make you or break you.
Dear Ife, to me, this particular discussion with this very choice of guest is not given at all.!!! Opeyemi is a proud arrogant "Yoruba Demon" and that's just the fact. He wasn't offering a reasonable solutions to writer rather you both ended up leaving her in a state of confusion. There's absolutely nothing wrong being a single mother of 3 or even 5. It is better to "Leave To Live" than enduring and staying in a place you're not needed or accepted because of what other people would have to say about you. To me, i feel the guy and his entire family are using the lady here, coz tell me why the guy's mum would be eager and interested to come for "OMUGWO" when she's yet to talk sense to her son and make him do the needful legally. The lady should just embrace herself and focus on herself and her children. Don't force yourself to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with you. I wish her well in making her final decision. Ireee✌️
I feel if you can take that mindset of this is my mother inlaw and this is my mother from your mind and try to get close to her and don't keep anything about what you're feeling there shouldn't be any problems, but if you're quoting that you can't explain what's wrong with you to her that you can only explain to your mum then problem mawa
I don’t know what to comment so let me just be going jare aunty Ife 😂😂
Red flag 🚩🚩is that you? 😂
Dear lady, please move on. You are trying to tie/entice that man with children and the house! Maybe he will stay with you. Please let him go for your mental health. Receive “akaonuche”
Sadly like Ope said, It's marriage of convenience, they are not each other's first choice. I maybe wrong, but I think that the man still has hopes of reconnecting with his original love sometime in the future.
I can't hear anything he is saying 😅
Its the girls mother that goes for Omugwo except her mother is late or she did not not grow up with a mum before her husbands mother can be replacing her mum
I don’t know if it’s me alone but the sound quality isn’t as sharp at it used to be Abi na Ope voice????
Interesting episode as always.
@Adesewahoney how do u expect him to stick to a topic for hour without adding any other talk in-between , I imagine how some Nigerian think sometimes, that show how ur IQ is , itbm shows
This man is resentful of this lady. He wasn't happy she got pregnant and now she is having another baby? It is how she value herself….. it is a shame, she needs to face reality before getting pregnant again. It is transactional period…
Dear Ife😊
This is a case of assumption…In the story, her feelings changed, but the man is still standing on initial business. The man hasn't done anything because he doesn't want to. Getting pregnant, buying a house together, living together, bringing in your son, talking to his family, hosting his family and hinting on marriage doesn't change anything and won't transform him to the man you want him to become. Why do you even want to marry someone who hit you while pregnant. Please move on, buy him out of the house, stop getting pregnant for him and raise the kids you already have. To answer your question, Yes! you are wasting your time.
Please don't invite opeyemi again. Thank you
Cravings can actually be controlled
Single women didn't implant the pregnancy in themselves, so if the man can chase a new life so can she👍🏾
Lets not get ahead of ourselves as women and be feeling sentimental in this case, agreement is agreement.At what point does the woman want something more that the narrative changes, which one is he cheated on her.Arranged marriage is non committal relationship, in the middle u start having unrealistic expectations and now u av the need to be reporting and seeking public opinion. Lets be true to ourselves first.
Ope said, "The guy really likes her like genuinely likes her, but does not love her to want to keep her."
Ife said, liking is not loving. Fact!
Who else is meant to feed the woman YOU impregnated?
The tie in is 😬 children , house and he has been unfaithful and violent and she's staying, sis really 😒
Ope 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Really tried to be kind with his words 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I have words for each one of the couple.
Fisrt, I'll address the man. You knew from day one what your mission was. It was to get your "papers" from that woman. You should have kept it that way. Why would you put her in a family way when you knew that you weren't ready to commit to her? Why would you go to the extent of buying a house with her when you didn’t want her in your future? Now listen to me, young man. When the chips are down, you will have to bear the brunts, unfortunately. I'm saying that because officially you too are "married". The government of America doesn't recognise business marriage or paper marriage.
Should you file for a divorce tomorrow, you will be the one to lose out. Should she file for a divorce tomorrow the same goes. You will suffer the most. That is because your woman with her children will be given the house that both of you bought. Yes! She's clever than you. You will still have to pay child care monthly to her, although you're no longer living in that house.
She can take you to court and file for a divorce on the basis of adultery. On top of that, she can implicate you and make the government deport you back to your country. So, think well before you do anything silly.
Now to the wife. It looks like you had a hidden agenda, and that agenda is to get the man to marry you at all cost. The original relationship the guy came for was pure business. You both agreed on how much he pays you to do the fake marriage. Now, you want more. Now because of your selfishness, you dont want that guy to chose who he wants to be with. You quickly became pregnant so as to tie him down. Unfortunately, you dont get a man to marry you by becoming pregnant for him. Most women still don't understand this. So, you know that what you had with that guy was a fake marriage why did you pressure him to buy a house with you? Why did you get pregnant the second time? Why did you not learn from your previous marriage? See what your desperation has caused to your life! An abusive man who doesn't love you enough to pay anything on you and proudly make you his wife. Anyway, i get it. You know that whichever way the relationship goes, you will be better off. You and your children would be given the house that both of you bought. And the man would then be left with nothing. On top of that, you will make him pay child care support to you monthly. On top of that, you have the power to destroy his paper and cause him to be deported back to his country. You hold the Ace! But remember, if you force someone to love you or marry you because you have the upper hand, the aftereffect is sorrow, pain and regret. Hope you two get what youre looking for.
I don't support being vindictive but, I like the fact that Ọpẹ was open and honest about been vindictive.
Most of the people commenting here are more vindictive but because an average Nigerian person is a hypocrite they would play the game of 'holier-than-thou and condemn Ọpẹ.
He is not obliged to marry her for real .its a contract and from her track record it looks like having babies is her way of keeping the men.
It’s hard to understand that it was a marriage for papers turned serious because it only seems like the female’s feelings turned serious. The man seems comfortable with their current situation ship.
Huhhhh !! I hope this idea of his has changed drastically !!! Bcus what’s this
Ife looks really beautiful 😍
Yes madam you are wasting your capital time!!!!
OMG!🤦🏽
Yes madam you are wasting your capital time!!!!
OMG!🤦🏽
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Thank you ma'am for dressing very beautifully and appropriately; thank you very much